Someone told me the other day that they don't respect me. This made me think about what respect actually means:
The online encyclo
has several definitions, and here is just one:
1. To take notice of; to regard with special attention; to regard as worthy of special consideration; hence, to care for; to heed. ... 2. To consider worthy of esteem; to regard with honor. ... 3. To have regard to; to have reference to; to relateto; as, the treaty particularly respects our commerce. As respects, as regards; with regard to; as to"
Looking at this it tells me that respect is a fundamental component of a relationship and a friendship, but not an acquaintance, for the former the importance of two way communication and two way respect is fundamental, in the latter it isn't. It makes no difference whether someone respects me, or whether I respect someone else, but it makes a huge difference if two people are to be friends. No one person can live under the umbrella of disrespect (or contempt), or the lack of respect (as this surely means one will cross anothers boundaries irrespectively) and it can't be pleasant for the other person to be around someone they disrespect (and the consequences).
So, when we harp on about the lack of respect in our 'youf culture' I wonder whether that is something that has come about due to our own lack of respect for them. If we don't listen to the 'youf' why should they listen to us?
I clearly have nothing in me for this particular person to respect, although I find it strange they should say that as I thought we were friends. I wonder if our culture has anything for the 'youf' to respect, especially when it is held in a mind of disregard and fear.
Perhaps I am wrong, but I always find it interesting to think about the meanings of words and the impact of them and their meaning on our society and interactions as we know them. Often we are so busy pointing out other peoples foiables and problems that we forget that we fall short ourselves. I wonder whether respect is the beauty of friendship, I think it might be.
I suppose many friendships lose respect, some are never borne because of lack of respect, and relationships break up without it. It seems fundamental, yet I was never taught about it.